Friday, August 29, 2008

[wet oatmeal kisses]

The first morning at home alone without Julius and Vivian felt very weird. It was too quiet. I felt paralyzed by all the things I wanted and needed to do, and I was feeling sad and kind of lost. Like being in the wrong place. It just didn't feel right.

Then followed busy days of riding to school with the bikes, driving Vivian to preschool, work, meetings, forms to fill out, homework to do... And I remembered Sharon saying "Wait until they'll start school." So here we are. The good thing is that Julius loves everything about his school. Today he said, he never wants to be sick again so that he won't miss a day of it.

All I know is that I don't want to miss a day with him and Vivian, and make the best of the time we have together. So as a reminder for myself, here is something I enjoyed reading.

Valentine's Day 2007


"Wet Oatmeal Kisses" by Erma Bombeck

A young mother writes: "I know you've written before about the empty-nest syndrome -- that lonely period after the children are grown and gone. Right now, I'm up to my eyeballs in laundry and muddy boots. The baby is teething; the boys are fighting. My husband just called and said to eat without him, and I fell off my diet. Lay it on me again, will you.''

OK. One of these days you'll explode and shout to the kids, "Why don't you grow up and act your age?"
...and they will.

OR:

"You guys get outside and find yourselves something to do. And don't slam the door!"
...and they don't.

You'll straighten up the boys' bedroom neat and tidy -- bumper stickers discarded, bedspread tucked and smooth, toys displayed on the shelves. Hangers in the closet. Animals caged. And you'll say out loud, "Now I want it to stay this way.''
...and it will.

You'll prepare a perfect dinner with a salad that hasn't been picked to death and a cake with no finger traces in the icing, and you'll say, "Now, there's a meal for company.''
...and you'll eat it alone.

You'll say: "I want complete privacy on the phone. No dancing around. No demolition crews. Silence! Do your hear?''
...and you'll have it.

No more plastic tablecloths stained with spaghetti.
No more bedspreads to protect the sofa from damp bottoms.
No more gates to stumble over at the top of the basement steps.
No more clothespins under the sofa.
No more playpens to arrange a room around.
No more anxious nights under a vaporizer tent.
No more sand on the sheets or Popeye movies in the bathrooms.
No more iron-on-patches, wet, knotted shoestrings, tight boots, or rubber bands for ponytails.

Imagine. A lipstick with a point on it.
No baby sitter for New Year's Eve.
Washing only once a week.
Seeing a steak that isn't ground.
Having your teeth cleaned without a baby on your lap.
No PTA meetings.
No car pools.
No blaring radios.
No one washing her hair at 11 o'clock at night.
Having your own roll of Scotch tape.

Think about it. No more Christmas presents out of toothpicks and library paste.
No more sloppy oatmeal kisses.
No more tooth fairy.
No giggles in the dark.
No knees to heal, no responsibility.

Only a voice crying, "Why don't you grow up?'' and the silence echoing,
"I did."

1 comment:

Sharon said...

How bitter sweet it is. On one hand we want them to learn and grow but on teh other we want them to be little and need us always. Too bad we can;t have it both ways. Enjoy EVERY second of it or they will be grown before you know it.